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Gentle reminder during pride month that not everyone can be out or visible. Some due to anxiety. Others due to very real threats of losing their homes, jobs, and families.

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To expect everyone to make a sacrifice in the name of being "out" is completely unreasonable, and shows a lack of empathy for people's situations.

There are parts of the world where it is a capital crime to be gay. Just remember that.

But remember: just like the air, or planets too faint to see with the naked eye, just because you can't see it, doesn't mean it's not there.

@Elizafox Wait people actually expect that? Here I am just ignoring pride month on my end because I don't have the spoons for stuff like this (plus I don't even know who the fuck I am, how can I be proud??) and now I hear people apparently *expect* people to make a sacrifice?

Fuck that, lol. My situation is my situation, others have nothing to do with that

@esp I have seen the very short-sighted take "everyone should be out, no one should be in the closet"

No, no one should have to live in a closet. But that's not the reality we live in yet.

@Elizafox I just... *breathes* nope. Not worth it. not worth wasting my spoons on something like that

@esp Same tbh, that's about all I want to say on it. Mostly just wanted to say that being able to be proud is a privilege not everyone has.

@Elizafox This music video may be relevant to those people then (and to those who can't come out):

It's okay to not come out if you don't want to. You have no obligation to *anybody* to come out.

@Elizafox I agree, I've dated folks from less friendly countries and even the simplest things can be complicated because of the fear. If it's a powerful person using that power to hurt queer folks I'd out them in a heartbeat tho.

@Elizafox This! Anxiety or just not having figured out who the fuck they are. How can you be proud of what you are when you don't know *what* you are?